Well guys, here is a small list of what not to do what so ever.
#Never worship a girl!
If you do, don`t let her know, because if she does, it will make her super confident and she will do whatever she wants with you. She can be cute, but she also can be mean! They will not only treat you as a step (as some boys do), but they can use you in some situations and use your condition to get what she wants! Not all girls are like this, but believe, many of them are. Be careful!
#Don`t put her in a pedestal!
No, no, no! Got that? NO! If you put her in a pedestal you won`t affect her directly as worshiping her, but will affect you! Once you think someone is better then you, you tend to feel conscious about what you say, how you act around her (or someone that knows her) and your self - stem gets really low because you feel like everything you do is embarrassing (even ordinary stuff, like eating in front of her, for example…).
#Be nice, but not TOO nice!
Guys, is true, every girl dreams/ has dreamed/ will dream with the prince charming, at least one time. But the prince charming is charming, not silly. Sometimes when you like someone you tend to do everything for the person. It`s good to be nice to the girl, help her and do sweet stuff for her, but you have to be careful not to do that too much, otherwise the girl will see that she has you in her hands. That, dude, is BAD! Girls like challenges. When things are too easy, they just, don’t taste the same...
#Don`t be clingy!
Guys, girls like “romantic comedies”, but we also like “suspense”. If you are around her all the time, the girl can feel a little bit suffocated. So, try to let her curious and intrigued. That will make her feel more interest about you. Everything that is “too much” is not good. Don`t ignore her! That`s not what I`m saying!!!
Friday, July 16, 2010
Thursday, July 15, 2010
Make the move
Hey guys!
Well, This is my first post, so I`m kind of nervous… Kidding, I`m not, because I know exactly what I want to say, I just wrote that I was nervous so you would sympathize with me. That`s pure psychology… And I didn`t know how to start a conversation without being awkward, so…
Speaking of starting conversations, that`s exactly what I`m going to write about in this post, so if you are having trouble doing that, feel free to read it and comment it later!
First of all, being scared of making being the one to start a conversation is absolutely normal. Really, you are not an ET if that happens to you… The thing is, if you want to talk to a girl, just do it man… Don`t wait for her to do that or to show a sign or any of this stuff people say. Just be brave, go there and talk to her. Sometimes the girl is just waiting for you to talk to her and you won`t ever find out if she is if you don`t do anything…
I really don`t get why you guys are affraid of starting a conversation... What can happen? You have nothing to loose. Is just a conversation!
Girls won`t think you are a creep just by talking to them.
But what would I talk about if I wanted to approach her?
Sometimes the guy have something he wants to tell her. That`s a little bit more complicated, specially because he can feel exposed. But don`t worry. Again, you have nothing to loose. Girls like to hear sweet stuff. So, if you talk to her, she might love it and you two can have a future. If she doesn`t love it, she won`t hate it and you will feel muck better and happier about yourself just to have taken the shot... So there aren`t really huge and terrible consequences...
If you just want to start a conversation, you can talk about anything, dude. You can ask her what time is it, or ask her about homework, or whatever you like. You really shouldn`t care about that. The only thing you really have to worry about is the way you do the approach. I know that when you are in this situation it looks very scary to approach the girl, but if you look the situation from the outside, it really isn`t that bad. You only need to be natural and DON`T put the girl in a pedestal. Remember that you are in the SAME level as her. She is not better then you in any way (and it serves to anything in your life). And if she is, just pretend she is not. In this case, no one is better than anyone. So just go and talk to her as if she was a normal person. Be polite, don`t act like she was one of your buddies, that`s NOT what I`m saying! But treat her as an equal. That`s how she will see that you are not weak, desperate, creepy, dumb and that you don`t worship her/ cyber stalk her, even if you do that (If you do, well, let`s talk about this latter...)
You will see that, once you treats her normally, everything start looking much easier and it will become a `routine` to talk to her, like, NBD. (NBD,hahaha, isn`t that stupid?)...
Afeter reading this, there are two possible reactions you may show:
You can be thinking: Oh, I could have figured that out by myself. I`m so stupid, why did I read this post? I should have stayed playing farmville in facebook...
If you are thinking that, ok, I don`t care whose idea this is, just make sure you think about that before talking to her.
If you are thinking: Oh, that`s so simple, I wish I had done that before…
That`s absolutely true. It`s simple, fast and effective. Just show her you are strong, because that, my friend, opens a lot of doors…
Well, This is my first post, so I`m kind of nervous… Kidding, I`m not, because I know exactly what I want to say, I just wrote that I was nervous so you would sympathize with me. That`s pure psychology… And I didn`t know how to start a conversation without being awkward, so…
Speaking of starting conversations, that`s exactly what I`m going to write about in this post, so if you are having trouble doing that, feel free to read it and comment it later!
First of all, being scared of making being the one to start a conversation is absolutely normal. Really, you are not an ET if that happens to you… The thing is, if you want to talk to a girl, just do it man… Don`t wait for her to do that or to show a sign or any of this stuff people say. Just be brave, go there and talk to her. Sometimes the girl is just waiting for you to talk to her and you won`t ever find out if she is if you don`t do anything…
I really don`t get why you guys are affraid of starting a conversation... What can happen? You have nothing to loose. Is just a conversation!
Girls won`t think you are a creep just by talking to them.
But what would I talk about if I wanted to approach her?
Sometimes the guy have something he wants to tell her. That`s a little bit more complicated, specially because he can feel exposed. But don`t worry. Again, you have nothing to loose. Girls like to hear sweet stuff. So, if you talk to her, she might love it and you two can have a future. If she doesn`t love it, she won`t hate it and you will feel muck better and happier about yourself just to have taken the shot... So there aren`t really huge and terrible consequences...
If you just want to start a conversation, you can talk about anything, dude. You can ask her what time is it, or ask her about homework, or whatever you like. You really shouldn`t care about that. The only thing you really have to worry about is the way you do the approach. I know that when you are in this situation it looks very scary to approach the girl, but if you look the situation from the outside, it really isn`t that bad. You only need to be natural and DON`T put the girl in a pedestal. Remember that you are in the SAME level as her. She is not better then you in any way (and it serves to anything in your life). And if she is, just pretend she is not. In this case, no one is better than anyone. So just go and talk to her as if she was a normal person. Be polite, don`t act like she was one of your buddies, that`s NOT what I`m saying! But treat her as an equal. That`s how she will see that you are not weak, desperate, creepy, dumb and that you don`t worship her/ cyber stalk her, even if you do that (If you do, well, let`s talk about this latter...)
You will see that, once you treats her normally, everything start looking much easier and it will become a `routine` to talk to her, like, NBD. (NBD,hahaha, isn`t that stupid?)...
Afeter reading this, there are two possible reactions you may show:
You can be thinking: Oh, I could have figured that out by myself. I`m so stupid, why did I read this post? I should have stayed playing farmville in facebook...
If you are thinking that, ok, I don`t care whose idea this is, just make sure you think about that before talking to her.
If you are thinking: Oh, that`s so simple, I wish I had done that before…
That`s absolutely true. It`s simple, fast and effective. Just show her you are strong, because that, my friend, opens a lot of doors…
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Hello bachelors all over the world, welcome to How to get a girlfriend!
First of all, don`t feel ashamed to be here. You are definitely not alone, believe me…
Just think that, if your friends are making fun of you now, you will be laughing at them in the end, when you date the dream girl.
Well, if you haven`t noticed yet, this is not a porn site. You also can not hire a girlfriend here and this is definitely not a dating site, so if you are looking for one of these, get the hell out of here.
Now, if you are not that desperate or even if you have already tried all these stuff and haven`t found a girlfriend yet, join me and I promise I`ll do my best to help you, my friend…
Here you can not only ask questions but you can also try to find your answers through other people`s doubts… Feel free to ask me, I`m here to help you!
But I have one thing to say. Don`t expect to hear the corny “Be yourself and you`ll find the perfect girl” or the old “Being confident is all you need”. Come on dude, if you are looking for that kind of stuff just leave, because here you will hear nothing but the truth. So be tough or just leave before I hurt your feelings, man…
Feel free to comment, open debates, ask questions, compliment my work or whatever, but try to keep the level, ok?
Well, That`s all folks, keep accessing my blog and you will see the results! (Oh, I really sound like those TV commercials, sorry about that…)
Just think that, if your friends are making fun of you now, you will be laughing at them in the end, when you date the dream girl.
Well, if you haven`t noticed yet, this is not a porn site. You also can not hire a girlfriend here and this is definitely not a dating site, so if you are looking for one of these, get the hell out of here.
Now, if you are not that desperate or even if you have already tried all these stuff and haven`t found a girlfriend yet, join me and I promise I`ll do my best to help you, my friend…
Here you can not only ask questions but you can also try to find your answers through other people`s doubts… Feel free to ask me, I`m here to help you!
But I have one thing to say. Don`t expect to hear the corny “Be yourself and you`ll find the perfect girl” or the old “Being confident is all you need”. Come on dude, if you are looking for that kind of stuff just leave, because here you will hear nothing but the truth. So be tough or just leave before I hurt your feelings, man…
Feel free to comment, open debates, ask questions, compliment my work or whatever, but try to keep the level, ok?
Well, That`s all folks, keep accessing my blog and you will see the results! (Oh, I really sound like those TV commercials, sorry about that…)
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